grief resources

Our grief doesn't need healing. Our healing needs our grief.

— Shauna Niequist

Grief is not a problem to be solved or a wound to be closed. It asks not to be fixed but to be felt, witnessed, and honored.

So much of what we carry is never named as grief. The losses that came without a funeral. The dreams that quietly ended. The versions of ourselves we had to leave behind. When that sorrow goes untended, it does not disappear. It waits in the body, in the patterns we repeat, in the disconnection we can’t explain.

the 5 gates of grief

Grief moves through many doorways. The teacher Francis Weller describes five.

  1. The grief of those we have loved and lost.
  2. The places within us that have not known love.
  3. The sorrows of the world.
  4. What we expected and did not receive.
  5. Ancestral grief, carried in us from those who came before.

Naming which gate we are standing at can be the beginning of tending what lives there.

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